I'm Sofie, a certified Child Sleep Consultant, Mum to two girls and I've been there and got the T-shirt.
I’ve been obsessed with child sleep for nearly 4 years since my eldest daughter Purdey was born and helping other families get their young children to sleep happily and healthily for the last 2 years.
Because I have walked in your weary shoes, I’m painfully aware of how debilitating sleep deprivation is on the WHOLE family. But I also know what it’s like to have a child that sleeps through the night, EVERY night. And I know how delicious it is for my partner and I to have 8 hours uninterrupted sleep, again EVERY night! .READ
We all know that we're in for sleepless night when when get pregnant but there's no way of preparing for how hard sleep deprivation hits you. My daughter had never slept through the night and woke several times each and every night and yes that was hardcore but for me the breaking point was nap time or what was supposed be to nap time but consisted of walk with the pram where she screamed her lungs out for 20 minutes before crashing and sleeping for just 20 minutes. As long as I was constantly walking at a decent pace. No red lights, no stopping for a quick coffee, in fact no stopping at all.
I had the pleasure of that pram walk twice a day come rain or shine. So much for the 'sleep when the baby sleeps' advice.
RELENTLESS. How I fondly described parenting!
BEYOND TIRED was the other favourite to convey how f'in exhausted I was.
I was so sleep deprived that my mental and physical health really suffered. I was anxious and couldn't fall sleep despite being completely exhausted. I ate really terribly: High energy, sugary and fatty foods. Or I just skipped meals and sunk a few glasses of wine in the evening.
My relationship was at breaking point and quite honestly I didn’t enjoy being a Mum and longed for 6 o’clock when my other half would get home from work so I could get a break (and that glass of wine!)
I remember a conversation with an NCT friend whilst we were hanging out, sat on the beach living the mat leave dream (not) and her saying " isn't it great that everything is so much easier now they were 6 months old?!". This was a bit of wet fish around the face moment as it couldn't have been further from reality for me, it felt like it was just getting harder and harder.
Sleep was all I banged on about and I cried at some point every day.
By chance I read an article about Post Natal Depression that rung some very loud bells.
Around this time and whilst still on maternity leave I found out that I was being made redundant. I had mixed emotions as I was done with the industry I worked in but it paid well. I had no idea what else I would do and how I would even string a sentence together for an interview with how I was feeling. At the same time it seemed to be last thing that I could identify as ‘me’.
I remember sitting in the local park early one morning to take the final call from HR confirming the redundancy. I got off the phone, burst into tears as per usual but actually something clicked. I immediately rang the Health Visitor team, still in tears and told them that I thought that I had Post Natal Depression. Lovely Sarah came round to see me that afternoon and that’s where things thankfully started to turned a corner.
I took all the help I was offered. Group support, one to one, medication and the kind and generous support of friends and family.
This is the biggest lesson I’ve learned is that you can’t and shouldn’t do everything yourself. Asking and accepting help is a sign of true strength not failure.
Through my recovery journey, I learnt that I was absolutely not the only one in this situation and it wasn’t anything that I’d done to bring it all on.
A couple of months passed and the heavy fog lifted. Sleep was still a total nightmare but my mind was so much clearer and I knew I wanted better for my daughter and us.
In one of my many, many middle of the night Google sessions on baby sleep, I came across a Sleep Consultant who I thought could help us. We'd tried and failed several times at sleep training and I was completely skeptical that anything could be done for our daughter cos she was the lost cause kid, the one that's just immune to this sleep training sorcery. But this Wonder Woman gave me hope as she had been through the exact same experience.
We hired her and it was the best decision we ever made. OUR LIVES WERE TRANSFORMED.
The experience was mind-blowingly positive and critically, it worked (!!!)
Having hit rock bottom and then experiencing how different I could feel being a Mum who had unbroken sleep again and a chance to take a break in the day, is what makes me so passionate about child sleep and what makes me want to share my knowledge and experience with other families who are ‘in the thick of it’ just like we were.
I achieved my certification through the Family Sleep Institute founded by pioneer Sleep Consultant Deborah Pedrick. I’m privileged to be part of the FSI Graduate community which features Psychologists, Child Development Specialists and Lactation Consultants amongst many others and with them, bring decades of experience.
What I love about the FSI is their belief that there is not a one size fits all approach and the training teaches its consultants to above all, support the philosophies of the parents.
All of this goes hand in hand with my ‘on the job’ experience with my own, gorgeous but at times extremely fussy daughter.
I'm now a Mum to two girls and OMG, the difference the second time around is nuts. Now I know what I'm doing, Tinker sleeps like a champ night and day and we've really been able to enjoy the baby stage with her rather than wish these short months away.
I’m passionately committed to provide you with the skills and support you need to ensure your tribe is well rested and thriving.
I offer every family a complimentary, no obligation Sleep Success Strategy call. In the call we'll get crystal clear on what's causing your sleep challenges, what's getting in the way of you dealing with them and discover what it will take for you to resolve them. You get to know me and more about how I work and how I can help you.
Book your call now, you won't regret it!
HOW I WORK
Often new Mum’s and Dad’s judge how ‘good’ or ‘bad’ their new baby is based on how much they sleep! One of the most important things I can share with you straight away is that how your child sleeps isn’t down to luck and getting a ‘good’ one.
Sleep is a skill that in many children needs to be taught. Just as they need to be taught to feed themselves and learn to walk, children also need help learning how and why they should sleep.READ MORE
My secret formula
The key to my success is getting a really clear understanding of you, your child and your goals.
I utilise my in depth knowledge, my real time training as a Mum and experience of teaching independent sleep to my own child and present your family with a strategy to reach those goals.
My recommendations and methods are sensitive to the needs of you and your family and can be tweaked and flexed in line with your progress. Children are little people and not robots and a one-size fits all approach just doesn’t work.
What I ask of you
I’m completely non-judgmental (I’m a Mum that has been there remember) and so I ask my families to be open and honest about their situation. No sugar coating required. If you want to reach your goals you must also be open to advice and to make change.
These are some of the common areas that I support families with:
• Frequent night waking
• Bedtime battles
• Ditching the dummy
• Transitions: dropping naps, moving from cot to toddler bed, arrival of a sibling
• Establishing great sleep habits from birth
And a few things that will come as an added bonus:
• Improving your relationship with your partner
• A happier and more contented child
• Less tantrums (if only we could get rid of them all!)
• Get back to enjoying being a parent
You’re not a failure for asking for help, in fact quite the opposite. It takes a strong and intuitive parent to know when they need help and to ask for it.
Book in your no obligation Sleep Success Strategy call now. Every family I work with tells me they wish they’d done it sooner, your time is now.
QUALIFICATIONS & LEARNING
- CERTIFIED CHILD SLEEP CONSULTANT - FAMILY SLEEP INSTITUTE 2015
- MEMBER OF INTERNATIONAL ASSOCIATION OF CHILD SLEEP CONSULTANTS
- MEMBER OF THE BRITISH SLEEP SOCIETY
- CURRENT DBS CHECK (DISCLOSURE & BARRING SERVICE)