I'm Sofie, a Child Sleep Consultant and I help exhausted and frustrated parents just like you resolve your child’s sleep challenges so you can all get an amazing night's sleep, more rest, and bundles of energy!
I’m guessing you can’t even believe you’re reading this page as you vowed you’d never go down the sleep training route when you were pregnant.
But you’ve literally read the entire internet on baby sleep, tried everything, every method, technique, program, and book that Amazon stocks. but seriously nothing has worked and you’re done.
Or your toddler is calling the shots in your house and running circles around you and your partner at bedtime. Tensions are high, nerves are frayed as you don’t know how to stop feeding them at night and get them to sleep in their own bed.
You just can’t cope with the screaming and the tantrums when all they want is to be in your bed and isn’t that where they should be?
That’s what you read everywhere. Let them in your bed as that’s the only way they’ll feel safe and loved? But you’re not getting any sleep as they toss and turn, fidget and fling themselves over your weary body.
You’re at breaking point, you're snappy with your little one and irritable with your husband, you have no energy to play and do fun things anymore and Peppa Pig and Hey Duggee are doing a lot more entertaining than you’d like.
Your husband says you should just go away for a few days and he’ll sort it. By what sort of Mum does that? Just leaves her child, won’t they feel abandoned? And what happens when you get back?
When you go it alone, it can feel massively overwhelming and scary. Are we doing the right thing, will this method work, what if she cries for hours and we damage her and she thinks we don’t love her!
I’m telling you now Mama, it gets to be so different to this.
I’ve been transforming the lives of 1000’s of families, saving marriages (& creating a few siblings wink wink) since 2015. I’ve worked with over 1250 families one-to-one and have worked through every single sleep challenge you can possibly imagine.
I’m a Mum of two awesome, funny and incredibly smart young girls who sleep so well and hardly ever get ill. I’m convinced that their solid sleep foundation has given them incredible immunity superpowers!
But it wasn’t always this way.
I’ve done the hard yards, unwashed hair scraped up in the 'Mum Bun', faded joggers and last’s night’s milk and tear-stained t-shirt, pounding the streets in howling wind and rain(or seafront in my case as I live in Hove - actually) for hours getting my eldest to nap.
It broke me mentally and physically.
I was so sleep-deprived that my mental and physical health really suffered. I was anxious and couldn't fall asleep despite being completely exhausted. I ate really terribly: High energy, sugary and fatty foods. Or I just skipped meals and sunk a few glasses of wine in the evening.
My relationship was at breaking point, sleep was all I banged on about and I cried at some point every day.
You can read more about my personal journey here, I know that it has helped so many of my clients to know what I’ve been through and how I came out of the other side.
But in short, being diagnosed with Post Natal Depression and getting help for that was the turning point.
It made me see that asking for help was not the sign of a Mum that was a failure, it was in fact quite the opposite.
So when I came across a Sleep Consultant (in one of my many middle-of-the-night Googling sessions) who had a baby just like ours, I was given the glimmer of hope that things could change if I reached out to her.
We hired her and it was the best decision we ever made. OUR LIVES WERE TRANSFORMED.
The experience was mind-blowingly positive and critically, it worked (!!!) and it became my mission to share what I’d learned and experienced with as many families as possible so that they weren’t robbed of the first year of parenting like me.
WHO DO I WORK WITH?
The ‘untrainable’. The ones where you have tried every single trick or method in the book and nothing works. God knows you’ve tried. Or maybe you’ve made some progress, so you know that they can do it, but it never last and that’s the most frustrating thing.
It works for a few days/weeks or even months if you’re lucky and then without you changing a single thing, they’re back to waking every hour and you lose the will to live. You’re so over it and thinking and talking about sleep every moment of the day (and night because you’re awake for that as well right?) and feel that you should just suck it up and accept that you’re not going to get any sleep for the next 5 years.
Having been blessed with one of my own, I also love the strong-willed ones, aka High Needs/Fussy. The children who don’t need as much sleep, the ones that arch their back and fight it with everything they’ve got! Hint … they do need just as much sleep but will need a lot more support in making that happen.
And I love those parents who are not even going anywhere near changing anything to do with sleep without the expert there guiding them through and holding their hand. I love you guys and your willingness to let go of control and trust me to take care of you and hold you on the journey to sleep and beyond.
